Hiring a nanny is one of the most important decisions a family can make. A nanny becomes part of your home, your routine, and your child’s development. Yet, many placements struggle or fail not because of bad intentions, but because of avoidable mistakes made early in the hiring process.

Based on our experience working with families and nannies across the UK, here are the most common mistakes—and how to avoid them.

1. Not Being Clear About the Role From the Start

One of the biggest issues we see is a lack of clarity around expectations.

Families sometimes say they want a “nanny,” but later expect:

housekeeping beyond childcare,
cooking for the whole family,
flexibility without clear boundaries.

When duties, hours, and responsibilities are not clearly defined from the outset, misunderstandings are almost inevitable.

Tip: Be specific about duties, schedule, flexibility, and priorities before interviews begin.

2. Hiring Too Quickly

It is understandable to feel pressure when childcare is urgently needed. However, rushing the process often leads to poor matches.

A nanny may look perfect on paper, but:

values,
communication style,
and expectations
must also align.

Tip: Take the time to interview properly and ask scenario-based questions. A good fit matters more than speed.

3. Underestimating the Importance of a Trial Period

Some families skip trial days or treat them as a formality. This is a missed opportunity.

Trials allow both sides to:

observe real-life routines,
assess chemistry with the children,
identify any red flags early.

Tip: Use trial days or nights intentionally and provide honest feedback afterwards.

4. Focusing Only on Experience, Not Compatibility

Years of experience do not automatically mean a good match.

A highly experienced nanny may still not suit:

your parenting style,
your household dynamic,
or your child’s personality.

Tip: Look for alignment in values, communication, and approach—not just a strong CV.

5. Avoiding Difficult Conversations

Families sometimes avoid raising concerns because they feel uncomfortable or fear conflict. Unfortunately, small issues left unaddressed often become bigger problems.

Tip: Open, respectful communication early on helps prevent resentment and breakdowns later.

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6. Not Understanding Employment Responsibilities

Hiring a nanny is an employment relationship, not a casual arrangement.

Common oversights include:

unclear contracts,
lack of notice terms,
misunderstanding payroll and tax responsibilities.

Tip: Work with a professional agency to ensure contracts, compliance, and expectations are handled correctly.

7. Trying to Manage Everything Alone

Families who hire independently often underestimate how complex the process can be—from vetting to trials to problem-solving.

Tip: A good nanny agency does more than introductions. It provides structure, guidance, and support for both families and nannies.

Final Thoughts

Most hiring issues are not caused by bad intentions, but by lack of preparation and clarity. With the right support, transparency, and communication, nanny placements can be stable, positive, and long-lasting.

At Nest & Kin, we guide families through every step of the process to ensure expectations are clear, matches are thoughtful, and placements are set up for long-term success.

If you are considering hiring a nanny and would like professional guidance, we are always happy to help.

Need Support Hiring the Right Nanny?

Hiring a nanny can feel overwhelming, but it does not have to be. Working with a professional agency ensures the process is clear, compliant, and tailored to your family’s needs.

At Nest & Kin, we specialise in carefully matched placements, with a particular focus on experienced Spanish-speaking nannies and maternity nurses across the UK.

If you are considering hiring a nanny or would like guidance on the next steps, we would be happy to speak with you.